This week’s musical teacher is a song written by Alexander Geringas & Michael Busbeeand sung by Kelly Clarkson called Dark Side . I’ve chosen this song because I’m feeling that my dark side is controlling me this week and I’m not sure how much I am accepting it.
“There’s a place that I know
It’s not pretty there and few have ever gone
If I show it to you now
Will it make you run away”
We all have a side to us that is something we label bad or wrong or other none helpful language. It’s a side that shows up when we are feeling down, concerned, angry, frustrated, unwell and “not ourselves”. And yet clearly we are being ourselves because it is still us that is being or feeling a certain way.
We often want to hide our dark side for fear of letting others down, worrying about what they might think of us or for fear of what might happen if we let that dark side rear up and control us fully.
I like to think – in my clearer more self compassionate moments – that our dark side has to exist in order for our “light” side to exist; everything has an opposite. The dark shades only show up as a contrast to the lighter shades. We can only see shadows where there is light. We only get rainbows after the rain.
“Everybody’s got a dark side
Do you love me?
Can you love mine?
Nobody’s a picture perfect
But we’re worth it
You know that we’re worth it
Will you love me?
Even with my dark side?”
I would encourage us to embrace our dark side, be open and vulnerable if need be. If our dark side shows up can we
- Acknowledge it without judgement
- Embrace it to learn what it is telling us
- Accept and love ourselves through the times our dark side seems to be leading the way
- Accept that others too have a dark side and allow them the space to express that within boundaries of love and support.
Who can you love even with their dark side?