For today’s blog I am reprinting/revamping an article I wrote a few years ago because it resonates with me at the moment. I have time to do what I want but I‘m noticing some “yes but…” excuses getting in my way. So I wanted to share the article in case you find yourself being a bit of a “Yes but…”excuse master too.
- Yes but… what you need to understand is…
- Yes but… that’s not possible in my business/life/circumstances.
- Yes but… I don’t have time.
- Yes but I’m different.
- Yes but I’m busy. (my definition of Busy is Because U Say Yes)
- Yes but… Yes but…
How many times have you come across people who are masters of the “Yes But…” excuse?
Maybe you are you one of them?
- Is it easier or more convenient to find a reason not to do something than to think through how it could be done?
- What would it be like if for you challenged yourself and/or your “Yes But…” colleagues or friends to eliminate those words from your vocabulary and replace them with. “That’s an interesting option, what would we have to do to make that work?”
“I think that’s exactly what needs to happen and I need to reprioritise so that I can make that work”
” I have tried that before yet I didn’t evaluate why it didn’t work so perhaps a rethink would be useful” (or phrases to that effect.)
If you take a different mindset you may get a different outcome.
Is your Yes But… mentality at the heart of poor time control?
Here are 5 Tips for Changing Your “Yes But…” Mentality
- Get clear about where you want to focus your time
Know first of all what you want – what you really want to achieve, so you have a solid frame of reference to make decisions
- Be open to options
Sometimes prejudice, assumption and past experiences get in the way of new thinking and objectivity. Be honest with yourself about whether you are limiting your range of solutions to how you can achieve something.
- Create space to think
Build in thinking time so that you can analyse different options. Ask yourself who, what, how questions to support a more creative approach to finding solutions that have stumped you in the past. Time won’t change so you have to.
- Take Ownership for the Outcome
The buck stops with you! Only you can manage your time and only you can therefore choose on what and how you spend your time. Your boss, your colleagues, your family or friends can only influence you. You can ultimately choose what you do and when you do it. Yes there may be consequences and again only you can decide the impact of those consequences.
- Ask for Help
You don’t always have to do everything yourself. You don’t always have to do IT at all. Again make choices about the reality of your to do or wish lists. Is what is on your list actually or necessarily up to ONLY you to do? Ask for help, share the load, delegate or just don’t do it. Yes, again there may be consequences and if you think rather than just assume and do, at least you have an increased chance of taking more control.
I’m realising that taking my own suggestions might be a good idea right now. Yet another example of do what you know Beverley!